What is the best age to get married? This question is provocative to spark off a heated debate that a friend of mine reopened the other day. The perspectives on this topic might vary greatly form person to person and place to place according to their own ethnic and cultural background. I am twenty six and young now, almost blond with green eyes, athletic, and maybe handsome as some people around me say, but am I going to lose them all in the future? I have been living under the shadow of this fear for a couple of years. Do I have to get married before losing my beauty? No, I am not a girl and I am too young to get married I have to fulfill my dreams; I always tell to myself in response. Considering the unmarried women who are older than me for instance increases confidence in me. Moreover I haven’t found someone who I want to live with for ever yet. When I should get married? I have not seriously contemplated up until three days ago. The fear of being unmarried for ever may lead people to believe they have to get married as soon as they can. There is some truth in it. But they fail not only to see the many advantages of being unmarried in earlier age but they also would not enjoy their youth. We can enjoy considerable latitude in deciding who we want to marry with and even when we want to get married. Hence we should not be in haste. In the first place, the age of marriage depends heavily on your culture, traditions and the customs of where you are living, in the second place it depends on what is your expectation of life and how do you like to share your private life.
Firstly, after age thirty a boy is completely autonomous and he has finished his education apart from having a job. He can think rationally and makes rational decisions which are based on reasons rather than emotions. A person who is supposed to get married has to be mature enough to tackle the upcoming problems in his life. He should know a great responsibility would be on his shoulder after marriage to make an informed decision for his future marital life and what is more that he should take his time to find a beloved girl to marry her that might take several years to do. As we all know our successes and marital lives are inextricably bound up with each other. For girls, it is my invincible belief that they should marry before the age thirty because on the one hand they might lose their beauty and they might never ever get married, on the other hand they would face difficulties in pregnancy after the age of thirty with even higher probability of inability to get pregnant. On the other hand the huge gap between the age of parents and children is not good for children and marriage in older ages might not brings pleasurable life.
Secondly, since financial status plays a vitally important role in marriage boys who want to marry are not expected to have serious financial problems. Needless to say, wives and husbands are indispensable parts of lives, In fact, there are our lives. If we imagine that life is a puzzle, finding the lost piece of this puzzle would perfect our lives. Therefore, decision for getting married is the most momentous decision one can make in his or her life. It should be taken into account that marriage in earlier age is a root cause of divorces and it brings about a frustrating life.
Last but by no means least; from psychologists’ point of view the best ages for couples to marry is that the woman should be several years younger than the man. A girl needs someone to share her feelings with that only a boy who is physically, psychologically and emotionally mature enough can handle this, something that young boys cannot do very well. As far as I am aware a woman is several years older than a man of the same age. I rather marry someone who I have some mutual feeling with. There should be mutual respect and understanding. The couples should trust each other and they should be intimate friends. I strongly believe that a marriage should be based on friendship, selflessness and loyalty and it would not be possible unless the girl and the boy have the maturity to understand each other.
To sum up, we can draw a conclusion that in order to have a happy life it is essential for a person either a man or a woman to get married at the right age, neither early nor late. In addition, it seems reasonable to assume that women should marry sooner than men; it is common in the overwhelming majority of countries. Consequently, I firmly believe that a boy should get married after age thirty and a girl before the age thirty although there are always some exceptions.
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