Who make choices? Parents of Children?

[Ailiaili]

Parent is the first teacher of an individual. What they teach and tell plays an important role in individuals’ entire lives. However, it is better for them to be mentors, but not dictators. And the decision of children’s own future should be made by themselves.

It is parent’s responsibility to guide children, teach them how to behave properly and supervise them make the right decision at each conjunction of life. Children, especially young kids, are hard to tell what is right and what is wrong. As adults, parents should make clear for them, help them to do the proper things, but not let them choose whatever they want. For instance, if a teenager is fascinated about computer games, he puts most of his time in the artificial world and what he wants to do in the future is to be an expert in games. Should parents simply let him make the obviously improper choice? I think no responsible parents would ever do that.

However, when children are mature enough to tell the right and evil, parents should let them go, and find their own life paths. Children are independent people, not the property of parents. They have their own rights to decide what to do, how to do, and where to go. However, it is always difficult for parents to understand this point since they feel that I give him the birth and I know him from head to toe. But that is not true! As a child myself, I truly understand how hard it is to be the property of parents. My parents always want to make the big decisions for me, such as the hobby I have to cultivate, the major I have to study. They think they know me. But it turns out that the hobby I have is want they like, and the major I study is what they think is prosperous. When I understood that I have the right to fight against that, I have already wasted much time.

Besides, I believe that mistakes help children to grow up. Sometimes, even parents know that it is unlikely for the children to achieve their dreams. It would be wise for them to let the children fail, lose and learn. This should be the way of growing up. Mistakes will give the impressive lessons for the children, so they will not make the same one again. If children just passively accept the ideas from their parents, they would always be thinking about their initial choices. They may have some regrets when growing old and the parents are possible to take the blames.

To sum up, parents are teachers, but also learners. They should teach the proper life value for the children, and guide them to make their own decisions. At the same time, they should also learn to give away the control of children, and free them to find their own ways.

Thanks for your help, Kitos!!
Happy Bachalor Day~haha!!
Aili

TOEFL listening discussions: Why did the young woman sit in the rear seat of the car?

[Kitosdad]

[Parents are the first teachers of an individual. What they teach and tell plays an important role in individuals’ entire lives. However, it is better for them to be mentors, and not dictators. The decision of children’s futures should be made by themselves.

It is parent’s responsibility to guide children, teach them how to behave properly and supervise them in making the right decision at each juncture of their lives. Children, especially very young children, sometimes prove to be very difficult to teach what is right and what is wrong. As adults, parents should make things clear to them, help them to do the proper things, but not let them choose to do whatever they want. For instance, if a teenager is fascinated by computer games, and he spends most of his time in the artificial world, and then states that what he wants to do in the future is to be an expert in games. Should parents simply allow him make the obviously improper choice? I think no responsible parents would ever do that.

However, when children are mature enough to tell the right from the evil, parents should let them go and find their own life paths. Children are independent people, not the property of parents. They have their own rights in deciding what they want to do, how to do it, and where to go. However, it is always difficult for parents to understand this point, since they feel that “we give him his life, and we know him from head to toe.” But that is not true! As a child myself, I truly understand how hard it is to be the property of parents. My parents always want to make the big decisions for me, such as the hobbies I should cultivate and the major I should study. They think they know me. But it turns out that the hobby I have is what they like, and the major I study is one they think is prosperous. When I understood that I have the right to fight against that, I have already wasted much time.

Besides, I believe that mistakes help children to grow up. Sometimes, even parents know that it is unlikely for their children to achieve their own dreams. It would be wise for them to let the children fail, lose and learn. This should be the way of growing up. Mistakes will give impressive lessons to the children, so they will not make the same one again. If children just passively accept the ideas from their parents, they would always be thinking about their initial choices. They may have some regrets when growing old and the parents are likely to be given the blame.

To sum up, parents are teachers, but also learners themselves. They should teach the proper life values to their children, and guide them to make their own decisions. At the same time, they should also learn to give away the control of children, and free them to find their own ways.

This was long, and nothing like your usual manner of approaching a topic. It was OK, but lacked your usual control. I don’t think I liked it.

Kitos. 8/10

[Ailiaili]

@Kitosdad

[Parents are the first teachers of an individual. What they teach and tell plays an important role in individuals’ entire lives. However, it is better for them to be mentors, and not dictators. The decision of children’s futures should be made by themselves.

It is parent’s responsibility to guide children, teach them how to behave properly and supervise them in making the right decision at each juncture of their lives. Children, especially very young children, sometimes prove to be very difficult to teach what is right and what is wrong. As adults, parents should make things clear to them, help them to do the proper things, but not let them choose to do whatever they want. For instance, if a teenager is fascinated by computer games, and he spends most of his time in the artificial world, and then states that what he wants to do in the future is to be an expert in games. Should parents simply allow him make the obviously improper choice? I think no responsible parents would ever do that.

However, when children are mature enough to tell the right from the evil, parents should let them go and find their own life paths. Children are independent people, not the property of parents. They have their own rights in deciding what they want to do, how to do it, and where to go. However, it is always difficult for parents to understand this point, since they feel that “we give him his life, and we know him from head to toe.” But that is not true! As a child myself, I truly understand how hard it is to be the property of parents. My parents always want to make the big decisions for me, such as the hobbies I should cultivate and the major I should study. They think they know me. But it turns out that the hobby I have is what they like, and the major I study is one they think is prosperous. When I understood that I have the right to fight against that, I have already wasted much time.

Besides, I believe that mistakes help children to grow up. Sometimes, even parents know that it is unlikely for their children to achieve their own dreams. It would be wise for them to let the children fail, lose and learn. This should be the way of growing up. Mistakes will give impressive lessons to the children, so they will not make the same one again. If children just passively accept the ideas from their parents, they would always be thinking about their initial choices. They may have some regrets when growing old and the parents are likely to be given the blame.

To sum up, parents are teachers, but also learners themselves. They should teach the proper life values to their children, and guide them to make their own decisions. At the same time, they should also learn to give away the control of children, and free them to find their own ways.

This was long, and nothing like your usual manner of approaching a topic. It was OK, but lacked your usual control. I don’t think I liked it.

Kitos. 8/10

Good morning Kitos.
Do you mean it is digressed??
Is it better to make clear the idea of each passage??
I can’t tell what’s the difference between this one and my previous one…
What should be improved of this essay???

[Kitosdad]

There was nothing wrong with the work, except I had to make quite a few alterations to it.

1. Parental responsibilities.
2. Children’s errors.
3. Release from parental control.

Three ideas, three paragraphs, add a conclusion … finished … easy peasy!

[Ailiaili]

Then I am getting more confused,why don’t you like this one???