It is better to marry someone who is similar to you, rather than someone who is

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Do you agree or disagree with the following statement:
It is better to marry someone who is similar to you, rather than someone who is different from you.

Essay:

Getting married is one of the most important periods of people’s lives. Some people want to be with someone who is similar to them, while others hold the strong belief that getting married with someone who is different from them is much more reasonable. In my perspective, I prefer to get married with someone who has the same interests and characteristics to me.

First and foremost, getting married with a person who has something in common makes our marriage lives more enjoyable. In fact, I have a various kinds of interest, so I want my wife also has the same kinds of interests to me. It would be more enjoyable and more meaningful for us, when we can share something in common, such as in cuisine, listening music, and so on. She also can understand me more, since she know exactly my hobbies and favorites are.

Second, living with a person who is similar to me helps me avoiding unexpected conflicts. For example, if I am very interested in watching football, and my wife has the same interest to me, we can together watching football match in comfortable atmosphere without complaining the other. If I want to have a baby boy and a baby girl, and my wife agree with me, it would be great when we can together raising our children.

Last but not least, living with a person who is similar to me saves us a great deal of money. For instance, if I very fond of eating Chinese meals, but my wife is very interested in Italian foods, it would be very confused and hard for me, when I have to satisfy my wife’s interest. In the long run, I have to spend a lot of money for other things like apartments, cars, furniture, and so on. In this case, if my wife has different favorite to me, my family will have to waste much time and energy to argue, as well as much money to buy different things, but has the same uses.

In summary, although getting married with someone who is different from me will bring me the different perspective about marriage live, I prefer a safer and more enjoyable one that is getting married with a person who has something in common to me. My life would be easier and more meaningful if I have a wife who know and understand my fondness, who can share with me her interests and hobbies, and who can together with me raising our children.

Dear Mr. Kitosdad,
Could you check and rate my essay? Thank you very much in advance!
NGU.

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Do you agree or disagree with the following statement:
It is better to marry someone who is similar to you, rather than someone who is different from you.

Essay:

Getting married is one of the most important periods of people’s lives. Some people want to be with someone who is similar to them, while others hold the strong belief that getting married with someone who is different from them is much more reasonable. In my perspective, I prefer to get married with someone who has the same interests and characteristics AS me.

First and foremost, getting married with a person who has something in common makes our marriED lives more enjoyable. In fact, I have a various kinds of interest, so I want my wife TO also HAVE the same kinds of interests to me. It would be more enjoyable and more meaningful for us, when we can share something in common, such as in cuisine, listening TO music, and so on. She also can ALSO understand me more, since she knowS exactly WHAT my hobbies and favorites are.

Second, living with a person who is similar to me helps me IN avoiding unexpected conflicts. For example, if I am very interested in watching football, and my wife has the same interest AS me, we can together watching football matchES together in A comfortable atmosphere without complaining. the other. If I want to have a baby boy and a baby girl, and my wife agreeS with me, it would be great when we can together raisE our children together.

Last but not least, living with a person who is similar to me saves us a great deal of money. For instance, if I AM very fond of eating Chinese meals, but my wife is very interested in Italian FOOD, it would be very confusING and hard for me, when I have to satisfy my wife’s interestS. In the long run, I have to spend a lot of money for other things like apartments, cars, furniture, and so on. In this case, if my wife has different favorite to me, my family will have to waste much time and energy IN arguING, as well as much money to buy different things, but has THAT HAVE EXACTLY the same uses.

In summary, although getting married with someone who is different from me will bring me the different perspective about marriED live, I prefer a safer and more enjoyable one(.) That is MEANS getting married with TO a person who has something in common WITH me. My life would be easier and more meaningful if I have a wife who knowS and understandS my fondness, who can share with me her interests and hobbies, and who can together with me raisE our children.
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Good morning NGU. This was a nice essay. You are almost there … just a little more help and practise.

Kitos. 8/10

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Marriage is one of the most important things in one’s life. Some people like someone different from them, while others have contrast opinion. From my point of view, my right person must be similar to me based on following reasons.

First, being spouse with a person who is alike with you will be reason for a steady marriage. Clearly, if you have the same point of view, you will easily find a common sense in every side of life. It helps you prevent unnecessary arguments that are the main reason for divorce. Furthermore, the harmony between habits, interests, and ways of thinking makes you happier. For example, if you are a fan of soccer and your wife either, you can watch soccer match at home with her rather than go out and enjoy it alone. You can also make a nice surprise for other by a soccer ticket and share an exciting night at stadium. Obviously, having the same experience makes you closer and closer.

Secondly, your career might be better if your woman is also your supporter. There exist couples that begin from colleagues. Needless to say, when two people have common goals and purpose for life, a love story will be written. In my case, I and my husband got married thanks to the same passion in education. We are always happy. When I read whatever related to our attention, I will tell him and we all talk about that. And also, when he has opportunity to meet a specialist in our domain, I will go with him. Hence, we have unlimited topics to talk about and our relationship is renewed frequently.

In conclusion, even though living with a person who has dissimilar characteristics with you seems to be interested, a steady relationship needs more than that. Marrying a person means living with him day by day and doing everything together. As you know, there appear million things to make you exploded if you could not make any common decision with your spouse. Therefore, to be harmony with your wife/husband brings you energy and motivation to reach success in career and gain satisfaction in life.

Hi Kitos,

Could you suggest me a key to improve my writing? I feel my essays are worse and worse. It’s terrible.

Thanks in advance.

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Good morning Sangthang. I see little wrong in this work. Perhaps it is a little bland, but nothing else. Being educationalists as you say you are, maybe exploring other interests would help to add a little more colour into your work. There is certainly little wrong with what you have written. The main point is that you covered the topic very well, and that is all you were asked to do. Don’t be too hard on ourself. It’s fine.

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Thank you for your advice.
Have a nice day, Kitosdad.