Any idea that from where I start English reading writing

good moring sir,

please give me any idea that from where i start english reading writing

Good afternoon Sir,
please give me some examples how to use instead of in writing essay?

" Instead of asking me to answer the door, try doing it yourself."

" Why don’t you do it, instead of asking me all of the time?"

" Take a heavy coat instead of that thin one."

" " I wish someone else had to go instead of me."