I think they were saying that it’s almost impossible to be a GOOD leader in business if you want to be a GOOD single mother. There are women who have children, dump them off on other people, and pursue their careers, but often either their careers don’t come out well, or their children grow up disturbed.
Beyond that, the father has to show up very often if the child is going to grow up normally. I have known many women whose fathers either abandoned their families or else worked so much that the girls saw them less than one day a week, or maybe never saw them. These girls have emotional and behavioral problems all the way up into their 20s. Boys also don’t do well if there is no father present, and are more prone to crime and other anti-social behaviors. There are people whose heads are in the 1970s who argue that one parent can be both parents, but research is finding out more and more that this is not true. (They also show that the death of a parent has fewer long-term bad effects than a divorce does, or just sloppily producing a child with no intention of having a family.)
There are also various issues with leadership style when women take management positions, and I know plenty of women who hate working for women. I have a friend who insists that women have ruined the advertising business as they’ve come to dominate it, because they play the politics of personal feelings too much and needlessly slow down people’s productivity. One of my sisters had a problem in her corporate department that her female manager used to hire women she felt sorry for and try to transform them into mentally healthy, productive workers. It never worked, and so, as was later proven by an efficiency study, only two women did almost all the work in the department.
At another company, I saw another typical female management problem. They hired a very troubled girl to run the large copiers. She was very uncooperative and at least once she paralyzed the company by locking herself in the copier room while she fought with her boyfriend on the phone for three or four hours. Under most managers, this girl would have been fired, and that would have been her signal that she’s got to grow up. Instead, she was given endless “last chances” and was finally put under the supervision of a woman I worked with. It turned out she was nearly impossible to manage, because whenever she was disciplined or didn’t like an order, she’d go into the bathroom and cry. She knew that if she did this, secretaries would eventually happen in and coo, “Honey, what’s wrong?” allowing her to tell her whole distorted story. Very soon my friend’s supervisor would get calls reporting that “Cyndi is being too harsh” with the girl, and my friend would be countermanded somehow. My friend was not a harsh or brutal manager, but the girl’s tears would reach all the way up the female management chain and make it impossible for my friend to hold the girl to her responsibilities.
Men make foolish management mistakes also, but not that kind.