Please have an open mind and give me your sincerest opinion on the above. My sister is married to a foreigner. He seemed nice at first (when they were courting) but as soon as they were married he began to show his true colours. He harrassed her daily. He calls her names and annoyingly vulgar - at home and in public. He shoves her around. Pushes his finger, knuckles and forehead when he speaks to her - or rather shouts at her. When she is lying down, he would sit on her, pinning both her hands so she can’t escape while he spat all over her face. Slaps her or twist her arms till she bruised all over. He would throw her on the bed or the walls or cupboard. When she hid in the bathroom or storeroom, he would kick the door knowing she is behind it. He demands her opinion on the clothes he wore but when she gave one, he would shout and demand her to tell him why her opinion is so. He shouts not speak - even in the middle of the night till dawn, disregarding the neighbours.
When he is calm and my sister told him not to shout and showed all the bruises, he denies everything and psychoed my sister by telling her she imagined it or that she hurt herself or it was all an accident or asks her to give the exact time and date that he did it (my sister can’t remember, of course). When my sister raised her voice to reply to his questions at a noisy place they went, he would accuse her of being rude and mentally sick. Names he would use? Fucking bitch, stupid cow, demented old woman, ugliest pig, psychopath, etc.
When she tries to speak, he would tease her with the tone of an old woman and told her she sounds like his mother.
When he wants her, he would turn into the nicest romantic puppy, showering her with flowers, dinners, gifts, holiday, concerts and money. Other days, he would demand that she gave him back her jewellery and gifts.
My sister’s asthma is now worsened. Her stomach ulcers bleed often. She has eczema all over. She became a nervous wreck - always stammering and shivering and crying. That cheerful, bright look has disappeared and she now looks 10 years older, always quiet and frowning. I worry she would commit suicide.
Since this is her second marriage, she refuse to get help for fear society might condemn her and she has only been married four months.
What do you think she should do? She had a black eye and bruised wrist, hands, legs, chest and breast from his work yesterday. He is British and woks as a Senior Software Engineer and converted to Islam due to the marriage. We are muslims.
Thank you for your opinion.