***** NOT A TEACHER *****
What an interesting question!
Of course, I cannot speak for Americans. (Especially when so many people of all classes say something like “Me and my wife went to Las Vegas last week.” Ugh! What horrific “English”!)
I can only tell you what this 76-year-old man would say:
Great news, T.H. You, Mona, and I have been nominated as “Person of the Year.”
Now, don’t get upset, T.H. But I, Mona, and you have been nominated as the “Worst Dressed Person of the Year.”
(According to your post, you would have said “I, you, and Mona.”
But I personally would put “you” last in a negative context. In other words, “I and Mona have been nominated as the 'Worst Dressed Person of the Year.” Oh, by the way, you are also included in the list. I should do anything to spare your feelings. That is just my personal choice – rule or no rule.)
Mr. President, they have just voted Buchanan, you, and Harding as the worst presidents in our history.
Mr. President, they have just voted Buchanan, Harding, and – uh-- you as the worst presidents in our history.
Which sentence do you think is the more gentle?