***** NOT A TEACHER *****
Hello, Foreigner:
I was shocked this morning when I read this comment from Beeesneees:
“a person is not a ‘that’, under any circumstances.”
I then realized that as a moderator, Beeesneees has the responsibility to teach the most modern form of English to students.
So you would be very wise to take her advice and use “who” to refer to persons.
BUT:
- All of my (American) handbooks on “good” English assure me that “that” can be used to refer to people.
- Here are a few comments from one of my favorite books:
a. “That” is the oldest of the relative pronouns.
b. The relative “that” now refers to persons, animals, or things.
c. The relative “that,” being older, is likely to have a more familiar and traditional ring [sound], and “who” … replacing “that” often sounds more formal. [The authors seem to agree with you. Congratulations!]
d. “That” seems to retain some of its Old English demonstrative meaning [when you point to something with your finger]:
THIS is the man that I voted for.
e. In restrictive clauses after superlatives and exclusive adjectives, “that” is preferred: Ho, everyone that thirsteth, come ye to the waters. [Everyone who is thirsty, come to the waters]
My summary:
- Students should take the moderator’s excellent advice to use “who” for persons.
- When you become fluent in English, then you have the right to use your own style.
- Some authorities feel that “that” is still “correct” in sentences such as these:
a. The MOST impartial critic that could be found. [after a superlative]
b. The ONLY man that I know of.
c. ANY one that knows anything knows that.
d. IT was you that said so.
[Those sentences come from two English brothers who wrote a famous book in the year 1906 (1906!). They admitted that even in 1906, " ‘That’, used of persons, has come to look archaic [old English that is seldom used]."
As for me, I shall continue to use “that” in such sentences, for it just sounds better to me. Sometimes native speakers choose a particular word for euphony (the pleasant sound in a particular sentence).
James
House and Harman, DESCRIPTIVE ENGLISH GRAMMAR (1950), pages 62 -63.
The Fowler brothers, THE KING’S ENGLISH (1906), pages 91 -92.