My mother was a very avid, skillful gardener, having learned gardening from childhood. She freely shared all her gardening knowledge with anyone who needed it, including my nextdoor neighbor, but she never taught me. Now my nextdoor neighbor – who has the entire day to work on her garden – gets upset because my garden looks terrible. If I ask her for advice, she claims not to know anything. So my mother passed the knowledge on to the neighbor, but the neighbor won’t pass any back to me.
Part of the problem is probably that I love some of the insidious plants that other people try to remove from their yards. We have wild violets in this area that I think are absolutely beautiful, and I let them grow anywhere they want to. Likewise some delicate powder-blue flowers that pop up on their own, and a delicious vegetable called sour grass that most people here consider a weed. Part of my garden has mint growing out of control also.
The neighbor on one side hates anything that’s out of control in her yard, so she doesn’t like those wild plants in my yard. The neighbor on the other side loves those same wild plants, and she transplants some of them from my yard into her own.